Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery
The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ.
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Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you?
Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go?
Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame
You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.
This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded.
I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked.
Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment.
On this podcast, you’ll find:
- A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate
- Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation
- Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust
- Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them
Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole.
If you’re ready to:
Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation
Experience God’s love without fear or striving
Break familiar patterns for good
Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace
Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play.
This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus.
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Episodes
Thursday Jul 20, 2023
Thursday Jul 20, 2023
Hey Friend,
So maybe I convinced you in the last episode to seriously consider spending 10-15 hours a week with your spouse. How is that going for you so far?
Would you love a little more support? I'm here today sharing 10 date ideas you may have never heard of or tried before! These are guaranteed to change things up, and they include both in-and-out of the house options as well as paid and free. Choose your own adventure! Then come tell me about it!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Tuesday Jul 18, 2023
Tuesday Jul 18, 2023
Friend,
Do you ever hear recommendations and think, there's NO way I could do that! I used to think that when someone told me- healthy marriage have couples that spend 10-15 hours a week together. This is intentional, face-to-face time where you can communicate and grow together. Cue all the excuses: kids, time, money, sleep!
But then I got serious about my marriage. I wanted to invest in it and show my husband he was a priority to me. After all, when we were dating, we spent tons of time together! Why not now?
So in today's episode, I break down the hours with some suggestions of how it could practically work for you. Need more suggestions or want to talk about how it would look in your situation? Book a FREE call and let's work through a plan together!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Thursday Jul 13, 2023
Thursday Jul 13, 2023
Mama,
True confession: there are still parts of the Bible that I do NOT want to read because I'm afraid of the shame and conviction creeping back up! Proverbs 7 was one of those that came up in my reading plan- all about the "immoral woman."
BUT GOD met me even there! When I was willing to be open and take my emotions to Him, He showed me a beautiful scene of redemption, rescuing, and safety. He is so good, I just had to share it and encourage you as well.
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Tuesday Jul 11, 2023
Tuesday Jul 11, 2023
Friend,
We could all use a little more JOY in our life, wouldn't you agree? There are enough things fighting for our attention between social media, the news, and just hard things that enter our lives. You know a fruit of the Spirit is Joy, but have you ever wondered what it is and how do you get it? And maybe you've been in a season of hurt and pain so long, you're not even sure you could ever experience Joy again.
There is HOPE, dear one! If there was Joy for King David (who had an affair and murdered her husband), then I guarantee there is Joy for you today. Let's dive in and learn what it is, how you can get it, and why you even want it. Then come and let me know what you're going to do with it!
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Thursday Jul 06, 2023
Thursday Jul 06, 2023
Hey there Sister!
After wrapping up Episode 8, lamenting your circumstances, God revealed even more depth to me as I saw connections between Psalm 42, Psalm 43, and Psalm 77! I was so encouraged that I couldn't wait to share it with you too.
After you've taken a shot at sitting in your own lament, you might be asking, NOW WHAT?! God still feels absent. Your relationship with heaven doesn't feel any more refreshing. Yes, dear, even this season has a purpose. And that's exactly what I want to tell you in today's episode!
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
Happy 4th of July Mama!
Do you have party plans today? Are you gathering with friends and family? Or are you trying to avoid the crowds and have a quiet, peaceful day? Maybe your house feels like fireworks could explode any minute, so you're just trying to avoid any sparks.
Can we talk for a minute about what you can control? Spoiler alert: it's you. I think it's worth pausing for a few minutes to check in on your needs, your attitudes, and your effort before you make your plans today. I believe it's possible to genuinely enjoy your day without faking it. And I'd love to hear how it goes!
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Thursday Jun 29, 2023
Thursday Jun 29, 2023
Hey sister,
Are you in a season of really hard emotions? Do you find yourself using words like frustrated, discouraged, hopeless, and lonely? Be encouraged- you are not alone. There are so many other women feeling the same things, and people also felt that way in Scripture!
Today, I walk you through a lament Psalm. We talk about what a lament is, how it's written, the example in Psalm 42, and how you can write your own. This can be a powerful moment with you and God. I double dare you- grab your journal and pen and see what happens when you get real with your emotions!
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Tuesday Jun 27, 2023
Tuesday Jun 27, 2023
Hello friend!
Have you heard the cliche, "Marriage should be 50/50 with each person doing their part." Or maybe even, "Marriage is 100/100 with each person giving it their all!" How do you know which one is right? And what if at this moment, it's 100/0?!
In this episode, I take a look at the question through what God says in Scripture. Join me in Genesis, Hosea, and 1 Corinthians to discover what effort we should be giving towards our marriage (and life). I can't wait to hear what you think!
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Thursday Jun 22, 2023
Thursday Jun 22, 2023
Hey sister!
Have you ever realized how much time people spend, pretenting to be someone they're not? Many times it's in the public eye like politicians or on social media. But sometimes it's in our own lives. Do you feel you know who you really are? Do you know who God says He created you to be? I'm about to make bold statement: I do not believe you can have authentic intimacy in your marriage until you know yourself, you know God's unique identity for you, and then you get to know your husband.
In today's episode, I talk about the importance of knowing yourself first, and I give you an acronym for SPIES to help. Just like a spy relays information about what's really going on behind the scenes, you can also dig deeper into your own heart. And I guarantee it will improve your marriage in the process.
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Tuesday Jun 20, 2023
Tuesday Jun 20, 2023
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Hey girlfriend,
Today I'm talking about feeling stuck. I spent a lot of years claiming I didn't know what to do, when in reality I was procrastinating and unmotivated to change. However, not all of those years were wasted. I still think back on 4 specific things I did because I was trying to get out of the affair, I just didn't know how.
In this episode I share a book I read, a habit I formed, music I listened to, and a decision I made. And yes, these are choices I'm glad I made because they impacted my life in a positive way, even today. So do you feel stuck, and you're trying to find something you can do? I hope one of these ideas helps you!
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com
Connect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching