Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery
The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ.
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Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you?
Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go?
Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame
You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.
This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded.
I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked.
Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment.
On this podcast, you’ll find:
- A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate
- Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation
- Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust
- Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them
Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole.
If you’re ready to:
Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation
Experience God’s love without fear or striving
Break familiar patterns for good
Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace
Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play.
This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus.
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Thursday Jun 15, 2023
Thursday Jun 15, 2023
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Hey friend!
Some practical tips coming at you today about rebuiding trust. Let's face it- without trust, there's no real relationship. And what I've found is that in order to rebuild trust in my marriage, I needed to practice being radically honest with myself and God first. And I mean, laying all the cards on the table, removing every mask, crying and yelling if I needed to- honest.
Or maybe for you it's the other way. You're begging your spouse to be honest and tell the truth for once. You want to rebuild the relationship, but you're waiting to see if you can trust again. Let me ask- do you trust yourself?
In this episode I open up about 4 ways to practice radical honesty, and I tell you which was my hardest one! So if you're ready to be challenged, find your safe space and pop in that earbud. Let's roll up our sleeves and get to work!
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
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Connect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Tuesday Jun 13, 2023
Tuesday Jun 13, 2023
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Hey friend!
Can I tell you a story today? It's a story about shame and hiding. And the surprising twist of grace. You see, shame just breeds more shame, so there has to be a plot-twist-injection-of-grace in order to disrupt the cycle. You can't get free alone. Oooh I can't wait for you to hear what this means for you!
In this episode I break down John 4 in a way you may not have heard before. I don't want to spoil any surprises, so buckle up, it's a juicy one! What begins as a story dripping with shame, ends full of hope. And I am here for it! Can't wait to hear what you think!
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
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Connect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Tuesday Jun 13, 2023
Tuesday Jun 13, 2023
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Hey friend!
Have you ever used the D-word in conversation with your hubby? You know… (Divorce)? Marriage feels hopeless now, and you’re sure it’s beyond repair. The only thing that makes sense is some separation followed by permanent divorce. That way you can both go your separate ways and make the most of the life you have left.
In this episode I give you 5 questions to ask yourself before you decide to call it quits on your marriage. I know that in the world’s opinion, an affair automatically equals divorce. But what if there was another option? This definitely isn’t a topic to be taken lightly, and I’d love to hear your thoughts after you listen.
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com
Connect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Tuesday Jun 13, 2023
Tuesday Jun 13, 2023
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Hey friend!
Are you, or someone that you know, stuck in an affair and wondering how to get out? Who can I talk to, and where can I go where I won’t be judged or feel shame? Let me reassure you now- not everyone gets access to your heart and story!
Today I dive into the very FIRST step of finding freedom, and that is finding and creating safe spaces in your life. These could be by yourself, but I also give a few ideas about safe people and safe physical places. Until you feel safe, you’ll stay stuck and unable to move forward towards freedom.
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com
Connect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching
Saturday Jun 03, 2023
Saturday Jun 03, 2023
Do you feel stuck in a marriage that feels broken? Are you trying to end the affair once and for all? Finally ready to stop carrying the secrets and shame that will eventually destroy you and your family?
Are you questioning whether or not you have to tell your husband? Or maybe you have told him, and now you’re trying to avoid divorce, quitting your job, leaving your church role, and moving to another state?
I bet you never thought words like cheating, infidelity, betrayal, and adultery would ever be part of your vocabulary, yet here you are.
And now you’re worried about the future trauma that your choices will cause your children. You have so much you’re thinking through, let alone taking care of your own shattered and confused emotions.
If this is you, I’m so glad you’re here. I asked these questions too and even lived to tell about it. I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, wife, mom, and affair recovery coach. I’ve been married for 10 years, and we too walked through repairing our shattered relationship and rebuilding broken trust.
After several miscarriages and both of us prioritizing work instead of each other, I found myself in situations I never imagined, doing things I never dreamed I was capable of. The enemy had come to steal, kill, and destroy my life and family. I created secrets I swore I’d take to my grave, all while trying to keep it together as a teacher, wife, and mom. But God.
So how did I break free from the lies and double life? That’s exactly what I want to share with you here. I will teach you how to:
-Take the very first steps out of an affair-Heal yourself emotionally, no matter how your husband responds-Restore emotional intimacy and physical intimacy-Create new healthy habits for your life and marriage-Move forward in confidence, with strength and dignity
So find your safe space and pop in that earbud. I’m about to show you that intimacy after infidelity is possible, and your marriage can be even better than it was before. Are you ready to rebuild your life after an affair? Let’s jump in!
Next steps:
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