Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery

9 | Stop Faking the Holidays, Mama, Celebrate Authentically

Happy 4th of July Mama!
 
Do you have party plans today? Are you gathering with friends and family? Or are you trying to avoid the crowds and have a quiet, peaceful day? Maybe your house feels like fireworks could explode any minute, so you're just trying to avoid any sparks.
 
Can we talk for a minute about what you can control? Spoiler alert: it's you. I think it's worth pausing for a few minutes to check in on your needs, your attitudes, and your effort before you make your plans today. I believe it's possible to genuinely enjoy your day without faking it. And I'd love to hear how it goes!
 
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
 
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8 | Pt 1 Why Discouragement is Not What You Think It Is! The Truth About Lamenting and Finding Hope

Hey sister,
 
Are you in a season of really hard emotions? Do you find yourself using words like frustrated, discouraged, hopeless, and lonely? Be encouraged- you are not alone. There are so many other women feeling the same things, and people also felt that way in Scripture!
 
Today, I walk you through a lament Psalm. We talk about what a lament is, how it's written, the example in Psalm 42, and how you can write your own. This can be a powerful moment with you and God. I double dare you- grab your journal and pen and see what happens when you get real with your emotions!
 
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
 
Next steps:
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7 | Marriage is NOT 50/50, 3 Bible Verses About Your Effort as a Wife

Hello friend!
 
Have you heard the cliche, "Marriage should be 50/50 with each person doing their part." Or maybe even, "Marriage is 100/100 with each person giving it their all!" How do you know which one is right? And what if at this moment, it's 100/0?!
 
In this episode, I take a look at the question through what God says in Scripture. Join me in Genesis, Hosea, and 1 Corinthians to discover what effort we should be giving towards our marriage (and life). I can't wait to hear what you think!
 
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
 
Next steps:
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6 | Want to Know Your Husband Better? Get to Know Yourself First to Improve Your Communication

Hey sister!
 
Have you ever realized how much time people spend, pretenting to be someone they're not? Many times it's in the public eye like politicians or on social media. But sometimes it's in our own lives. Do you feel you know who you really are? Do you know who God says He created you to be? I'm about to make bold statement: I do not believe you can have authentic intimacy in your marriage until you know yourself, you know God's unique identity for you, and then you get to know your husband.
 
In today's episode, I talk about the importance of knowing yourself first, and I give you an acronym for SPIES to help. Just like a spy relays information about what's really going on behind the scenes, you can also dig deeper into your own heart. And I guarantee it will improve your marriage in the process.
 
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
 
Next steps:
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5 | Keep Moving Forward - 4 Ways I Sought Healing in My Affair Recovery

Hey girlfriend,
Today I'm talking about feeling stuck. I spent a lot of years claiming I didn't know what to do, when in reality I was procrastinating and unmotivated to change. However, not all of those years were wasted. I still think back on 4 specific things I did because I was trying to get out of the affair, I just didn't know how.
 
In this episode I share a book I read, a habit I formed, music I listened to, and a decision I made. And yes, these are choices I'm glad I made because they impacted my life in a positive way, even today. So do you feel stuck, and you're trying to find something you can do? I hope one of these ideas helps you!
 
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
 
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4 | Radical Honesty- 4 Ways To Rebuild Trust In Your Marriage

Hey friend!
Some practical tips coming at you today about rebuiding trust. Let's face it- without trust, there's no real relationship. And what I've found is that in order to rebuild trust in my marriage, I needed to practice being radically honest with myself and God first. And I mean, laying all the cards on the table, removing every mask, crying and yelling if I needed to- honest.
 
Or maybe for you it's the other way. You're begging your spouse to be honest and tell the truth for once. You want to rebuild the relationship, but you're waiting to see if you can trust again. Let me ask- do you trust yourself?
 
In this episode I open up about 4 ways to practice radical honesty, and I tell you which was my hardest one! So if you're ready to be challenged, find your safe space and pop in that earbud. Let's roll up our sleeves and get to work!
 
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
 
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3 | Shame Off Of You- A Look At How God Pursues You Without Judging You

Hey friend!
Can I tell you a story today? It's a story about shame and hiding. And the surprising twist of grace. You see, shame just breeds more shame, so there has to be a plot-twist-injection-of-grace in order to disrupt the cycle. You can't get free alone. Oooh I can't wait for you to hear what this means for you!
 
In this episode I break down John 4 in a way you may not have heard before. I don't want to spoil any surprises, so buckle up, it's a juicy one! What begins as a story dripping with shame, ends full of hope. And I am here for it! Can't wait to hear what you think!
 
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
 
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2 | Does An Affair Mean Divorce - 5 Questions to Ask Before You Call it Quits

Hey friend!
Have you ever used the D-word in conversation with your hubby? You know… (Divorce)? Marriage feels hopeless now, and you’re sure it’s beyond repair. The only thing that makes sense is some separation followed by permanent divorce. That way you can both go your separate ways and make the most of the life you have left.
 
In this episode I give you 5 questions to ask yourself before you decide to call it quits on your marriage. I know that in the world’s opinion, an affair automatically equals divorce. But what if there was another option? This definitely isn’t a topic to be taken lightly, and I’d love to hear your thoughts after you listen.
 
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
 
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1 | The First Step to Getting Out of Secrecy - Find And Create Safe Spaces in Your Life

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Hey friend!
Are you, or someone that you know, stuck in an affair and wondering how to get out? Who can I talk to, and where can I go where I won’t be judged or feel shame? Let me reassure you now- not everyone gets access to your heart and story!
 
Today I dive into the very FIRST step of finding freedom, and that is finding and creating safe spaces in your life. These could be by yourself, but I also give a few ideas about safe people and safe physical places. Until you feel safe, you’ll stay stuck and unable to move forward towards freedom.
 
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
 
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Welcome to the Intimacy After Infidelity Podcast! For Christian Women Whose Marriage Has Been Affected By An Affair

Do you feel stuck in a marriage that feels broken? Are you trying to end the affair once and for all? Finally ready to stop carrying the secrets and shame that will eventually destroy you and your family?
Are you questioning whether or not you have to tell your husband? Or maybe you have told him, and now you’re trying to avoid divorce, quitting your job, leaving your church role, and moving to another state?
I bet you never thought words like cheating, infidelity, betrayal, and adultery would ever be part of your vocabulary, yet here you are.
And now you’re worried about the future trauma that your choices will cause your children. You have so much you’re thinking through, let alone taking care of your own shattered and confused emotions.
If this is you, I’m so glad you’re here. I asked these questions too and even lived to tell about it. I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, wife, mom, and affair recovery coach. I’ve been married for 10 years, and we too walked through repairing our shattered relationship and rebuilding broken trust.
After several miscarriages and both of us prioritizing work instead of each other, I found myself in situations I never imagined, doing things I never dreamed I was capable of. The enemy had come to steal, kill, and destroy my life and family. I created secrets I swore I’d take to my grave, all while trying to keep it together as a teacher, wife, and mom. But God.
So how did I break free from the lies and double life? That’s exactly what I want to share with you here. I will teach you how to:
-Take the very first steps out of an affair-Heal yourself emotionally, no matter how your husband responds-Restore emotional intimacy and physical intimacy-Create new healthy habits for your life and marriage-Move forward in confidence, with strength and dignity
So find your safe space and pop in that earbud. I’m about to show you that intimacy after infidelity is possible, and your marriage can be even better than it was before. Are you ready to rebuild your life after an affair? Let’s jump in!
 
Let’s Work Together: www.kristinajoycoaching.com/apply 
Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
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Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com