Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery
The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ.
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Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you?
Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go?
Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame
You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.
This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded.
I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked.
Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment.
On this podcast, you’ll find:
- A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate
- Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation
- Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust
- Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them
Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole.
If you’re ready to:
Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation
Experience God’s love without fear or striving
Break familiar patterns for good
Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace
Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play.
This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus.
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Let’s Connect:
Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Instagram: www.instagram.com/kristinajoycoaching
Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Let’s work together: www.kristinajoycoaching.com
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Episodes
Thursday Aug 24, 2023
Thursday Aug 24, 2023
Friend,
Did you remember there's a war going on all around us? Satan is out for your family, your attention, and any part of your life he can get. But the good news is- you are not alone! Habakkuk wrote a book in the Bible about his conversation with God when his country was at war. And God told him it was about to go from bad to worse!
But isn't our God good- He wove hope into the entire conversation along with reminders of truth about who He was and is. So if your situation feels so bleak and discouraging right now, grab your Bible and find Habakkuk- God has a word for you today!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!
xoxo,KristinaJoy
Next steps:Join the community, catch me live, get immediate support: www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelityWEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTION
Tuesday Aug 22, 2023
Tuesday Aug 22, 2023
Hey Sister-Friend,
When was the last time you checked your phone settings and saw the amount of time you spend on social media? Does that number shock you? Have you ever thought about how much social media takes from your life- time, energy, attention? Intimacy?
Let's get real, and really honest, about the potential threats that social media plays in our lives today. It's time to get serious about what we let into our homes, our lives, and our hearts. And if you've been considering laying down your social apps at Jesus's feet- I'm right there with ya!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!
xoxo,KristinaJoy
Next steps:Join the community, catch me live, get immediate support: www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelityWEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTION
Thursday Aug 17, 2023
Thursday Aug 17, 2023
Come join the NEW community! You are not alone, sister. Join like-minded women from around the world, looking to encourage, inspire, and rebuild their marriage. www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Hey Friend,
Have you ever searched for the "definition of cognitive dissonance"? I hadn't either- until I learned that was the phrase I needed in order to explain this terrible feeling I had. The things I preached, the values I held to, the Bible stories I believed in- none of it lined up with how I was choosing to live my life during my affair.
So today I break it down for you: What is it, how do you know if you have it, and how do you get out of it?! I'd love to hear your thoughts after the show!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!
xoxo,KristinaJoy
Next steps:NEW community! www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelityWEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTION
Tuesday Aug 15, 2023
Tuesday Aug 15, 2023
Come join the NEW community! Find accountability, laughter, and connection with Jesus-loving women just like you. You are not alone! www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Hey Friend,
Do you find yourself fresh out of a confession about an affair? Are you overwhelmed with what you should be doing now? Everybody you might talk to has a different opinion, or maybe you don't feel safe talking to anybody! (And I don't blame you!)
Here I talk about the 3 things I did immediately that helped in our healing journey. These things anchored me, grounded us, and were critical to our emotional health and healing.
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!
xoxo,KristinaJoy
Next steps:NEW community! www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelityWEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTION
Thursday Aug 10, 2023
Thursday Aug 10, 2023
Come join the NEW community! Come laugh, learn, and connect with Jesus-loving women just like you. You are not alone <3 www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Friend,
Growing up I claimed, I hate emotions! Silly contradiction, right? Well it played out in my life and marriage when I began to observe HE (hear, WE!) are emotionally immature and it's really impacting our intimacy, communication, and married life!
I'd love to save you the trouble of staying immature and never growing, so I'm here to share 3 specific things we're doing to grow personally and together. These are ways we are emotionally growing, healing, and thriving. I can't wait to hear what your next step is!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!
xoxo,KristinaJoy
Next steps:NEW community! www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelityEmail me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Tuesday Aug 08, 2023
Tuesday Aug 08, 2023
Come join the NEW community! Come laugh, learn, and connect with Jesus-loving women just like you. You are not alone <3 www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Hey Friend,
I was told once, "You can't be upset at the results you don't have because of the work you didn't do." Wow! Although that advice was about business, I immediately saw the appliction to my life and marriage. So when you look at your life today, are you happy with where things are? Or do you wish things could be different? What work are you willing to put in to make the change?
Today, let's talk about what results you want in your marriage. And let's learn what actions, feelings, and thoughts you need in order to get there! I learned this Self-Coaching Model from Brooke Castillo, and it radically changed my thinking about what I'm responsible for. I can't wait to share it with you!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!xoxo,KristinaJoy
Next steps:NEW community! www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelityEmail me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Thursday Aug 03, 2023
Thursday Aug 03, 2023
Sister Friend,
Are you struggling to rebuild trust with your husband? You're committed to your marriage, but you're not sure exactly what to do or how to keep growing? I remember facing difficult decisions, having hard conversations, and asking what would help us heal the best way possible.
So in today's episode, I want to talk about rebuilding trust, prioritizing your marriage, and making difficult decisions. Your actions need to line up with your words because you are 100% committed to truth and trust-building now. Let's dig in together- I pray this blesses you, and I'd love to help however I can!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!xoxo,KristinaJoy
Next steps:NEW community! www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelityEmail me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Tuesday Aug 01, 2023
Tuesday Aug 01, 2023
Girlfriend!
Grab your favorite (non-alcoholic) drink- I can't wait for you to meet my friend Ashley! She is a Sober Coach for people trying to break unhealthy drinking patterns, and she has a similar passion like me for helping women find true freedom in their life!
What drew me to Ashley when we first met, was that we used similar language: addiction, shame, labels, recovery, freedom. But while I talk about the affair addiction, she talks about it with substances. What a beautiful community that understands the need to put God first and find healing!
In today's conversation, we talk about: True freedom from the issue and not "willing" it away. The role your brain plays when your body is doing "new" things. Your identity and how the words you use to label yourself can empower you or keep you stuck.
Pull a chair up to the table- let's dig in!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!xoxo,KristinaJoy
Connect with Ashley:
Instagram: @ashley.sobercoachBio: www.holyhopecoaching.com
Next steps:NEW community! www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelityEmail me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Thursday Jul 27, 2023
Thursday Jul 27, 2023
Hey Friend,
Have you ever wondered what exactly a healthy marriage looks like, anyway? You know the movies are fake, but what's left for real then? Is there any way to really build a marriage strong enough to survive anything?
I have some revelation for you today! Just like a tree has roots, a trunk, and leaves with fruit, your marriage can be rooted, stable, and life-giving! I break it all down inside today's episode.
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!xoxo,Kristina
**Ready to chat? Let's talk about how to shed your shame and take the first steps toward true freedom! I'm ready to get in the trenches with you, girl!**
Next steps:Join the community! www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelityEmail me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Tuesday Jul 25, 2023
Tuesday Jul 25, 2023
Hey Friend,
I am so excited for you to meet Darnell Wilson today! He currently serves as Director at Northeast Ohio Impact, unleashing the Gospel to local college students. We first met when he preached a sermon at my church on forgiveness and how Christians need to forgive and be forgiven.
Today we continued the conversation in Zechariah, where we learn Jesus silences Satan's accusations on our behalf. And what's more, God changes our clothes- and our life! And we are never the same!
I pray you experience the love of Christ today!
xoxo,
Kristina
Continue the conversation with "Darnell J. Wilson" on any social media channel.
Next steps:
WEBSITE UNDER CONSTRUCTIONConnect with me: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.comSay hey on Instagram: @kristinajoycoaching