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95 | Holiday Loneliness, Temptation, and the Pull to Text Him

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The holidays can intensify loneliness, dysregulation, and the urge to reach out to an affair partner, especially when family gatherings feel overwhelming or unsafe. In this episode, I gently unpack why the craving feels so strong during the holidays and how to get through these moments without going back to old patterns.
You’ll learn:✨ Why holidays trigger emotional overwhelm and longing for escape✨ How texting an affair partner often functions as regulation, not desire✨ Practical tools to ground your nervous system in triggering moments✨ How Emmanuel, God with us, becomes a lived experience, not just theology✨ How to stay present, care for yourself, and choose healing even when it’s hard
If you’re struggling to stay grounded this season, you don’t have to do it alone.
Let's Connect! I’d love to hear where you’re listening from and what this season is stirring in you. 💙
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Safe women. Scripture + somatic healing. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
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94 | Staying Regulated When the Holidays Trigger Everything

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In this episode, I share honestly about how the holidays used to dysregulate me and how I've learned to stay grounded, present, and connected to God without numbing or escaping. This is a compassionate guide for navigating holiday triggers, family dynamics, and emotional overload with grace and nervous system awareness.
You’ll learn:✨ Why the holidays can feel especially dysregulating✨ How old escape patterns show up during family gatherings✨ Simple boundaries and grounding tools you can use in real time✨ How to stay present with God and yourself without numbing
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
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93 | The Truth About Closure And Why You Don’t Need His Words to Heal

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Today, I’m keeping it real and sharing honestly about my own journey of longing for closure with my affair partner. I’m also opening up about the powerful moment I realized I didn’t need his words to heal. So if you’ve ever waited for one last conversation, apology, or goodbye before you could move on, this episode will help you take your power back and find closure with God instead.
You’ll learn:✨Why we crave closure so deeply✨ Why his apology or explanation often pulls you back in✨ How to release his story and reclaim your own✨ How God’s words bring real closure to your heart✨ Practical tools for grounding, processing, and letting go
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
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92 | The Power of Community in Healing

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You were never meant to heal alone. In this episode, I share some personal stories behind my own breakthrough moments, from the first time I admitted I couldn’t cut contact, to the retreat where I experienced safety and compassion for the first time, to the women who held space for me when she was convinced I had to take my secrets to my grave.
I also reveal what I'm seeing inside my own group coaching community: the “me too” moments, the relief from isolation, the courage that rises when women hear their own thoughts mirrored in someone else’s story, and the unique healing that happens only in safe, faith-filled connection.
You’ll learn:✨ Why you cannot read the label from inside the jar ✨ The brain science behind safety and co-regulation ✨ How God uses other women as mirrors and midwives for breakthrough ✨ The lies the enemy uses to isolate you — and the truth that sets you free ✨ Why healing accelerates in community (and why trying alone keeps you stuck)
💙 Plus, hear real testimonials from women inside Rooted in Joy who have found compassion, clarity, accountability, and a sisterhood they didn’t know they needed.
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
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91 | Becoming Her: Acting Like The Healed Version Of You

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If you’ve ever wondered how to become the healed version of yourself, the woman you know God is calling you to be, then this episode is your roadmap. I'll share real stories from my own healing journey, including the moment I acted like my healed self long before I felt healed, just last week! I'll also discuss how identity, values, and embodiment create transformation from the inside out.
You’ll learn: ✨ Why it’s normal to feel disconnected from the “future you” at first ✨ How to make choices from identity instead of emotion ✨ The lies you must shed to step into who God says you are ✨ How to use the Be–Do–Have framework to align with your healed self ✨ One powerful question to guide your next brave step
 
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
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90 | If The Affair Is Wrong, Why Does It Feel Right?

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If you’ve ever asked, “Why are affairs so wrong if they feel so good?” this episode will help you see the longing underneath the behavior and the good design underneath the distortion.
We’ll unpack Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 6 and 7 through a modern lens, exploring sexual stewardship, wholeness, and what it means to align your body, mind, and spirit with God’s original design for intimacy and freedom.
You’ll learn:
Why freedom in Christ is about discernment, not indulgence
How the craving itself points to God’s good design underneath the distortion
The connection between body, spirit, and sexual stewardship
Three truths about desire, grace, and holiness
Reflection questions to help you process this passage personally and with God
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Let’s Connect:
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1:1 Coaching: email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

89 | Seek First the Kingdom And God Will Provide Everything You Need

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If you’ve ever wondered why the wrong thing could feel so right, this episode is for you. I'm sharing my real-time 🔥 Holy Spirit revelations 🔥 from a church sermon, unpacking how the enemy distorts truth to lure us into counterfeit lies. You’ll learn how to identify the lies, test them against God’s Word, and experience His Light and Truth as your ultimate source of provision.
You’ll learn:
How unmet needs lead us toward false comfort
How to test every thought and emotion against God’s truth
Why seeking first the Kingdom realigns your desires with true provision
A prayer practice to ask the Holy Spirit to replace lies with truth
Join the Community:
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Let’s Connect:
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1:1 Coaching: email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

88 | Hold Your Emotions Without Letting Them Hijack You

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Sister, you’re not “too emotional” and you’re not a robot. God designed your body, brain, and heart to work together. In this episode, I teach a simple Christian & somatic approach to feeling your feelings without spiraling into old patterns. We’ll use The Model and The Domino Drill, parts-work in plain English (think Inside Out), and a handful of on-the-spot practices you can use today.
You’ll learn:
Why emotions are messengers, not enemies, and how God meets you in them
A Christian, embodied take on The Model + The Domino Drill to stop emotional spirals
How to use parts-language (“Hi, loneliness”) to reduce intensity and increase compassion
Quick somatic tools (sigh + anchor, orienting, etc.)
Join the Community:
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Safe women. Scripture + somatics. Real tools. A corrective, healing experience for your nervous system.
Let’s Connect:
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1:1 Coaching: email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

87 | Who Am I Without Him? Reclaiming Your Identity After the Affair

NEW Community Group Coaching! Reach out on Instagram for more information and to join us today!
 
When the affair ends, the silence can feel unbearable. Not just because he’s gone, but because you don’t recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, I share my own story of identity loss after infidelity and walk you through the process of rediscovering who you are in Christ. You’ll learn how to detach from false identities, rebuild your self-worth, and start living as the grounded, confident woman God created you to be.
 
You’ll learn:✨ Why it feels like you lost yourself after the affair✨ How to detach your worth from another person’s attention✨ The spiritual practice of asking God who He says you are✨ Simple ways to rediscover what brings you joy and peace✨ A practical, faith-filled framework to rebuild identity after betrayal
 
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86 | Still Thinking About the Affair Partner? Practical Tools to Break Free

NEW Community Group Coaching starting Monday October 20! Reach out on Instagram for more information.
You’re not crazy for still thinking about him, and you don’t have to stay stuck. In this episode I explain the neuroscience behind intrusive thoughts, help you name what you’re really missing, and teach practical, faith-filled tools to interrupt old loops and create new, healing associations. This includes somatic practices, a visual “leaf on the river” exercise, and coaching prompts you can use today.
You’ll learn:
Why your brain keeps replaying memories
How to distinguish what you miss from who he really is
Practical tools to interrupt obsessive thoughts and rewire your brain
How to grieve without staying stuck and meet your deeper needs safely
A short, cognitive and spiritual anchor to help take every thought captive
Let's Connect!
DM JOY on Instagram or email kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com to join Rooted in Joy group coaching. The kickoff call is Monday, October 20!
Book a 1:1 Coaching Call
Find me on Instagram or in the Facebook group and let's meet!